A good sex life takes time and effort to maintain. It won’t always be
easy — our busy lives are taxing and often leave us tired and devoid of
the imagination and motivation required to keep up the pace. Having good
sex doesn’t necessarily mean spending hours and hours of frolicking, it
can be as simple as doing something a little different just for a
change.
Women are cyclic creatures, and her sex drive will vary
depending on her hormones and what’s going on in her life. Sometimes it
takes a bit longer to get her hot and the same-old song and dance may
not be enough. This applies to you too.
Therefore, it's important to add a few more stimulating aspects to your sex life to keep things interesting.
Here are 10 tips for better sex, which should keep the two of you hot for some time to come.
Number 10
Blindfold her
intimate
pleasure has many dimensions, but the most important intimate organ we
have is our brain. When one sense is hindered, our other senses — via
the brain — clamor to compensate. For example, a deaf person has
increased sensory awareness — sight, smell, touch, and vibrations. For
No. 10 entry on our 10 tips for better sex guide, we're telling you that
you can tap into this innate ability of ours and use it to your
advantage: Blindfolding your partner increases her sensory awareness.
She doesn’t know where you are or what you are going to do next. This
creates anticipation for better sex — the tease. Tease her mercilessly
with sensory objects, such as a feather or your tongue. Start off
softly, as this excites her nerve endings and makes them far more
sensitive. Be careful not to overstimulate the nerve endings, however,
because after a while the neurons stop firing with such intensity and
the sensation becomes null and void.
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Number 9
Give her instructions
After
a while you may think you know how to please your partner in every way,
but this is very rarely true. There is always something you haven’t
tried, and there is bound to be something one of you always does that
could be done differently.
To combat this for better sex, have a
lesson session in which you don’t think you know it all, and are at
each other's mercy as teacher. Talk about things you haven’t tried, but
would like to, then choose one suggestion from each partner, and get
down and dirty. We often get caught thinking we know what our partners
like, and after a while it becomes "the way it’s done." Lose this myth
and put yourself in the student's chair for a while for better sex you
won't regret.
Number 8
Massage
Sensual touch is
one of the most highly relaxing and sexy things you can do for your
partner, which is why it makes it onto our 10 tips for better sex list.
Our bodies are almost without exception tense in some area, if not many
areas. This hinders our energy flow — including intimate energy flow.
Imagine a car that has a clogged fuel filter: the fuel (our energy)
can’t get to where it needs to go quickly and smoothly, and the car
performs inefficiently and ineffectively.
A relaxing sensual
massage can unlock her body to some very intense heavenly feelings and
much better sex in the end. The ability to relax your partner in this
way should be high on your list of skills to master. The same goes for
her: The difference between a deeply relaxing massage and a sensual
massage is in the manner of touch — you don’t want to relax her too
deeply because she will probably fall straight to sleep.
The key
to better sex in this case is to keep her senses alert, but her body
relaxed. This means a firm touch, coupled with some sensory
feather-light caresses. Once you've relaxed her major muscles —
shoulders and back — work your way down to her buttocks. Strokes can
then start to wander near to, but not on, her inner thighs, butt crease
and womanliness. Don’t forget her hands and feet — there are thousands
of nerve endings in our hands and feet that are very sensitive to touch.
If you have no idea what a good massage feels like or how to perform
one, spend some time in "lesson time" with your partner and learn what
you both like or just run your hands all over her body — all over. Don’t
skip to the hot spots or you’ll ruin the effect.
Number 7
Have her dress up
Pretending
to be something you're not comes easily to some people. However, it has
its benefits when done for fun. Stepping out of the role of being
"yourself" can be a fun way to give each other permission to behave
differently for better sex. Playing the role of someone else during
intimate play is a very enjoyable way to give your partner some
different sensations, and try things that you haven’t done before. Role
playing is a great way to have better sex and to have fun with your
partner in a light-hearted but sexy way. It is often the woman who does
the dressing up simply because A) They enjoy it; and B) They have the
resources of clothes, underwear and makeup — but don't forget that you
can play too..
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Number 6
Tell her your fantasies
Talking
about your fantasies with your partner is a very conducive form of sex
play. It increases communication with your partner, which is of great
importance, as well, it also helps you get to know each other better for
better sex. Yes, you may be surprised by what comes out of her mouth,
but this works both ways. Keep it light at first and don’t throw her in
the deep end with fantasies about people you both know or reveal
fetishes you aren't sure about. Sit back with a glass of wine and keep
your clothes on — for now. Fantasy play can also be incorporated into a
game for better sex. Use your imagination, and keep it sexy. Take it in
turns and see where it leads you.
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Number 5
Play a game
Get
a pack of cards and play strip poker for better sex. It may seem like
something you would have done when you were in high school (given the
opportunity), but adult strip poker is a good way to get Unclad. Once
you are both Unclad (or nearly Unclad), you can start on the really fun
part: A loss means the other person gets to choose what action is
performed on them by the loser. Time limits like one minute on said
action means that it is a prolonged game of seduction, which by the end
will have you both clamoring to be both the winner and the loser. There
are many other games you can play "strip" to, as long as there is
regular winner and loser to reward and punish respectively. The great
part about these games is that you can both ask the other person to do
something in a certain way that you may not necessarily have ever done
before. It can get rather filthy, and definitely lead to better sex in
the end.
Number 4
Dirty talk
Talking dirty has
turned people on for millennia and will continue to do so because it has
something other sex play doesn’t: words. Because our brains are our
largest intimate apparatus, we respond to the spoken word automatically —
especially when someone says our name. The spoken word evokes emotions,
sensations and blood flow to various regions, depending on the topic.
This
works very much in your favor when it comes to talking dirty to your
lover because women are especially susceptible to what goes in their
ears (and I don’t mean cotton buds or ear candles). Talking dirty is,
however, an art form and when done badly can result in fits of giggles
(which, lets face it, ain't so bad but isn't quite the goal here). Don’t
let this deter you.
Have better sex by using toys and trying a new locale...
For
better sex, start off easy with neutral dirty-talk topics, such as how
you feel inside her, how much you are enjoying the act and what you
would like to do to her next. Don’t get too carried away, but let it
flow out of you. Dirty talk can be a bit daunting at first, if you are
not used to verbalizing these things, so practice. You will see how she
responds to you. Dirty talk also comes under the "encouragement"
category — when she sees that you like something very much, she will be
more interested in doing it more. The rawness of the intimate passion
excited with dirty talk is why it is so effective. Be careful with
swearing too much — though a good dose of foul language is part and
parcel with dirty talk (its not called dirty talk for nothing), too much
swearing/name calling can be a turn off. Try to stick to positive
words, and leave the commonly used insult words out. Watch what you call
her body parts too — just make sure she can handle it before launching
into your tirade of filth. Chances are, the passion from you will ignite
hers two-fold.
Number 3
Try a new position
You
already know how to bring her to heavenly feeling in two ways
(probably). You repeat these regularly because they work — there's no
harm in that. However, if you never, ever try any new positions again,
how will you ever know? New positions need a reasonably high level of
arousal in your lover, so choose your time to strike a new pose when she
is quite obviously feeling very randy.
There is no limit to
the number of ways to have sex, so you can use your imagination and come
up with as many weird and wonderful inventions as you desire. Simply
changing locations can dramatically change the position, so consider
this too (for example on top of the washing machine, on a bench, beanbag
or table).
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Number 2
Use a rooster ring
rooster
rings slow the drain of blood out of your Attention, and keep you
harder for longer. A very hard joystick stimulates a woman’s insides
slightly differently — and much better — than one that is getting soft
around the edges. rooster rings are inexpensive and usually nice to look
at, and make an interesting male intimacy gadget to add to your
collection. rooster rings ensure that you can maintain the pace without
faltering for better sex. This is very pleasing to your lady friend.
Number 1
Try a new place
Sex
in a new locale is definitely up there in exciting things to do for
better sex. You can take a drive somewhere secluded where you can get a
bit risqué. Try a public place (not too public) or simply move to a
different room or area in your home — or even someone else’s home.
Whatever tickles your fancy. There are a million and one different
places to have sex other than your home, in your bed — use them.
increase your pleasure
The
list of helpful hints you have been presented with equates to a very
good head start to a better sex life. The time and energy required to
plan your adventures will pay off immediately, but also over the longer
term. You will be rewarded according to the effort you put in with a
great new skill set, and of course better sex. Make time, conserve some
energy for it and relax. Life is short!
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